The silent Truth !

Some people in our society are still giving least priority to women. There is no world without women, but we have never been treated equally by our own people. There is a myth among people since centuries that women depend on someone or other always. First on fathers and brothers, then on Husbands, at last they depend on sons and daughters when they grew old.

But i don't agree to that, there is a life for a woman before becoming a wife, before becoming a mother. In fact there's a world even after becoming wife and mother. There are many who became successful even after marriage, and even after becoming mothers. A woman can be independent only when she is given enough freedom and encouragement by the man in her life.

We women transform ourselves into any role easily. Our parents decides everything for us right from our childhood. We change our world for some unknown person when we get married to him. We lose our body shape when we give birth to our children by going through so much pain which is equal to 20 bones breaking at once. When we turn back and see all our life. It is always us who are giving our body, our age, our time, our life to someone without expecting anything in return.

And what we face to cross all these stages of our lives is beyond anyone's imagination. There are very few women who get a happy life and understanding people around them. But there are many who are suffering at every step of their lives. First they are not allowed to study, then they are not allowed to work. Some of them are not allowed to step outside. I don't understand why these many boundaries are there for only a woman's life ?

It is not the outsiders who make us suffer. But it is our own people who hurt us the most. When we get married to someone we face so many restrictions, We are not allowed to talk to anyone, we can't keep passwords to our mobiles, we can't go outside alone, even if we want to go, people back at our homes will send at least 10 year old kid with us just to make sure that we won't do anything terrible in that one or two hours. We do dishes, we wash entire family's clothes, we cook many varieties of food according to everyone's taste and demand, we clean our houses but the people at our homes will find out dust somewhere or other, sometimes even under doormat. They will yell even if we forget to add salt while cooking curry. It is a big crime if we forget to wake up early one day. It is even our fault if we don't get conceived. They raise their hand just to keep us in control. It is really hard to believe but they are many women who still doesn't know what they like, they still don't have a personal choice. It is always someone else who chooses everything for them. But they never speak about it.

Even in 21st century there are people with orthodox thoughts. Women are wrongly treated by their own family members. Do you believe that many women are being abused, harassed and raped by their own husbands behind closed doors. Many women suffered during lockdown. But they never speak about this. 

When we watch movies we always hate villains when they treat women badly. When we read about some incident in newspaper, we feel bad about it. We hate the people who do that. But did you ever thought what you are doing to your women at home is same ? When you are good to women at your workplace and other women at society, why can't you be nice to the women at your home?

To the men who are reading this, "It is okay if your wife is an illiterate, it is okay if she is simple, it is okay if she's not intelligent, it is okay of she doesn't cook well, it is okay even if she doesn't look sexy like other women, it is okay if she doesn't bring dowry, it is okay if she is more educated than you, it is okay even if she is earning more than you, it is okay if she is intelligent than you. 

It is okay !

When you a marry a woman treat her well. It is important to give women their own space and respect. Controlling them, beating them, abusing them doesn't show your love, it only makes their life difficult. If you give them enough freedom then no woman will ever do any mistake, no woman will think about anyone else".

We women always brush away few things just like we tuck our hair behind our ear, we think it is not a big deal. But the little things you ignore which makes you uncomfortable becomes the most painful hardships in your future. Not speaking about the pain, not speaking about the harassment by family members is also equal to welcoming that pain in your life. Instead of that Learn to fight for yourself, for your self respect. Don't think about society and their opinions.  It is your life, you have to control your life, not anyone else. Not even your life partners.

-Queeny 👑